To judge others is to take law into our hands.

Projection:
When we see anyone doing something wrong, we immediately
begin to think about it and judge them based on whatever we have
seen. When we bring any such negative thoughts we will not be
able to help in any way to overcome the weakness.

Solution:

We need to remind ourselves that we have no right to judge

others. The only thing we need to do is to see if we can help them

out in anyway to overcome their weakness. If not, we need not

think or talk about it, i.e., we need not take the law into our hands.

Anger Management

• There are some false notions (ideas) about anger that we have
• acquired, which we use to justify and nourish our anger:
• 
  
• 1. I have no choice but to get angry.
• Fact: You do not know how to understand, manage and choose
• your feelings, especially when something happens that you do not
• like.
• Tip For Transformation (Change): Meditation increases your
• self-awareness. It makes you realize the beliefs that you hold and
• that hold (control) you and enables you to see and make your
• choices much more clearly.
• 
  
• 2. Anger gives me a surge (rush) of positive energy.
• Fact: Anger temporarily heightens your attention and alertness. But
• it results in mental and emotional exhaustion (tiredness) and over
• time will end in burnout. However it is the 'hit' (dose) of adrenaline
• that you have become addicted to which also makes you believe
• that a bit of anger is good.
• Tip For Transformation (Change): Every time you become angry
• visualize a white sail on a calm sea and a gentle, cool, breeze
• blowing against your face.

Experience of true peace brings easy success.

Projection:
Whenever things go wrong, we find ourselves worrying a lot about
the situation or the things that are going on. Then our mind is no
longer in peace but is busy worrying and breaking the situation into
pieces. We find that we don't find the accurate solution
immediately but are thinking in circles.

Solution:
While working to find solutions, it is more important to work at
our own inner peace before we make an attempt to try and find a
solution. With the right state of mind, we automatically find that the
right decisions are being made by us thus giving us the right results.

'Self Esteem'..

Self-esteem and self-respect are closely connected. One is an integral part of the other. One is not possible without the other. In relationships, when other people are throwing all their negative energy at us, if we can maintain our own self-respect we will be able to remain stable, positive and unaffected. In fact, if our self -respect is strong, we will not feel the need to return the negative energy, which they are sending us, but will be able to return understanding and compassion (sympathy) instead. To regain, build and strengthen our self-respect, we need to practice giving respect to others – no matter what they are like, or what they do. What we rarely realise is that in the process of respecting another, we are first of all respecting ourself.

Exercise: What does showing respect look like? (imagine different ways in which you can convey respect to another person) - What do you think is the biggest inner barrier to developing the ability to give respect to others? Whom could you consciously choose to respect more today than you have up to now? (remember that to be respectful you will need to be non-judgmental)

The right way of living spreads joy to others...

Projection:

When people around me are not happy with me, I usually believe that I am right and they are all wrong. I then cannot check or realise my own mistake. So I rarely make an attempt to change myself and continue to wait for others to change or understand me.

Solution:

If people around me are not able to get happiness from me or the way I live, I need to look at my own life in a detached way to see where I could change. Even a slightest change brought by me with sincerity will have a great effect on those around me.

Flavour's Of Freedom..!

I’m an Actor,

Playing the role of a son,friend,brother,nephew,uncle,loved One ,teacher etc…

In this ‘World drama’

My part is 2 play my roles accurately irrespective of people,situations and things..

I’m a hero actor(I am a loveful,peaceful,blissful and happy being)..

We generally mix our roles with ourselves (eg;Positions,physical appearances,wealth,relations etc)and as a result we often tends to loose our identity if we loose any of this things,

And suffer from inferiority complex,depression,stress,anxity.

Even we should see that our “Name”is also one of our achievements after our birth unlike our degrees ,social status,nationality,religian,friends ,relatives etc..

We often tends 2 identify ourselves with this things as a result we loose our state of being ‘human+being’(how 2 be)we starts becoming human+doings..we starts doing things 2 achieve Happiness,Love,peace…!

One should be very clear about what do I want in my life and start working according 2 it..we want happiness,love ,peace but as we set out throughout the day ..we start creating anger,jelacies ,depression etc…it should be very clear that Anger and Happiness cannot stay together,Love and hate cannot be friends..!If we r searching 4 Love we should always give love 2 get love ,(every action has an equal n opposite reaction)

We should be really conscious about what we are giving 2 this world,we cannot wait 4 people or situations 2 change ,or act according 2 us…It Will Not Happen !

Often we starts a game known as BlaME GamE..we blame society ,people ,situations ..

I should reember that irrespective of people,situations..its I only I who creates my thoughts 4 me..when i take the charge of my life in my hands im no longer effected by any situations or people ,this stability of my mind helps me 2 be stable ,happy ,loveful,peaceful throughout my journey of life….!

There will be love 4 others and no dependency left!!

One can taste the flavour of freedom ,2 taste the flavour of freedom 1 should remember :

a)If I changes the world changes..!

b)As you think so you Become..!

''F0r Me OnLy....

Every night in my dreams

I see you, I feel you

That is how I know you go on

Far across the distance

And spaces between us

You have come to show you go on.

Near , far, wherever you are

I belive that the heart does go on

Once more you open the door

And you're here in my heart

And my heart will go on

Love can touch us one time

And last for a lifetime

And neverlet go till we're gone

Love was when I loved you

One true time I hold to

In my life we'll always go on

Near , far, wherever you are

I belive that the heart does go on

Once more you open the door

And you're here in my heart

And my heart will go on

You're here ,there's nothing i fear

And I know that my heart will go on

We'll stay forever this way

You are safe in my heart

And my heart will go on and on…..

.pause .think .act

To move through daily challenges without feeling overwhelmed.

To have more pleasure, be less busy and still stay in charge.

Here's the answer .pause .think .act

.pause to focus on what's important and align with your core strengths

.think clearly to find solutions and determine your next move

.act decisively, know when to adapt or when to hold your ground

Get into the .pause .think .act habit to make savvier choices, be more effective and stay unaffected.

CHOiCE$..

What I'm experiencing at this moment is the result of choices and decisions made in the past. What I will experience in the future depends on choices and decisions I make now. How will this understanding affect the choices and decisions you will make today?

ACcEptaNcE...

Resistance is always Futile (worthless) as it only Sustains Your Suffering

Whenever anger appears inside your mind, you will notice that you are in a state of resistance, or non-acceptance, towards an event, a set of circumstance or the other person – sometimes all three. Resistance is the seed of all conflict between people. Resistance sustains the cycle of violence with others and with yourself, and it is driven by the emotions of fear and anger. This is why the first step to resolve all conflict is always acceptance. It is to accept the past is past and nothing can change it. It is to accept that other people’s behaviour cannot be controlled, because you cannot control their thoughts and decisions, and you definitely cannot control their beliefs and perceptions (ways of looking at things). Acceptance means that you are able to think calmly, see clearly, create options and make better decisions. Acceptance is the first step out of anger, out of your self-inflicted pain and suffering, and into peace.

$eLf E$tEem

Self esteem is the foundation of our self confidence and self

motivation. Self esteem is how we feel about ourselves at any

given moment. Almost everyone of us has been taught to build our

self esteem on the wrong foundations. We build it on something
external instead of something internal. We are taught to connect it

to our position, material possessions and pay, and by how much

regard we receive from others. This is why we very rarely meet

people who have rock solid self esteem. Most of us learn how to

hide our delicate self-esteem. Finally the disguise (cover up) tires

us completely and we surrender to the tension. Each and every

one of us will have to go back to school to learn this inner lesson
and find our true inner strength. Life gives us many signals and

offers many opportunities to do this, but most of us either avoid

the message or shoot the messenger, preferring to live with the

tension and keep up the deception (cover up).

To be special means to have a gift for everyone we meet.

Projection:

Usually we are ready to give physical gifts to people but when it

comes to being a giver in the form of understanding or love, we

cannot always be a giver. We usually begin to expect from others.

Solution:

We need to make sure that we have a gift for everyone we meet; it

could even be a smile or a kind word. When our focus is on what

we have to give, we will be free from expectations from others.

This will make us truly special.

With the balance of love and discipline, energy can be saved while speaking.

Projection:

Throughout the day I find myself having to give explanations or corrections to so many people. When I do this I find that I have to spend a lot of words. In the process I tend to lose a lot of my energy and find myself tired.

Solution:

In order to save my energy and to use fewer words I need to have the balance of love and discipline. Discipline will enable me to give the right directions while love will make my directions effective. So I find that just a few words would be enough to get my message across.

To be in the awareness of my own speciality is to be free from negativity.

Projection:
When I percieve negativity in others, I find myself very easily influenced by it. I then react negatively to them and am not able to maintain my own positivity. All my specialities remain hidden in such a negative atmosphere and I continue to be negative too.

Solution:
Like a rose I need to maintain my originality and uniqueness while being amongst the thorns. Instead of blaming others and their negativity for my own negativity, I need to practice being positive and working with my original qualities. Then I will never complain but will always use my own specialities.

The one who serves with the balance of the head and the heart is the one who is successful.

Projection:

We usually give directions to people when they go wrong. We also use a lot of logic when we give such directions, but it doesn't always have the desired effect. We then begin to consider the other person to be wrong.

Solution:

What we need to do is to have a balance of both the head and the heart while giving our suggestions to others. That means we need to have a lot of love while giving our suggestions to them. Then whatever we say will have its effect on them.

The one who is a giver, has attention constantly on giving fully.

Projection:
When the system that I am working in doesn't let me give maximum benefit to the people around me or deprives them of their natural right, I tend to react negatively. I tend to become upset which doesn't help either of us in anyway.

Solution:

When I remember and maintain the awareness that I am a giver, instead of complaining about the restrictions that society or people around me impose I continue to give those around me something that will make them happy. This could be in the form of kind and supportive words or at least an understanding smile. When I give in this way, it will make others too free from negative thoughts.

The one who fulfills promises with determination is the one who overcome all problems.

Projection:

When I see some weakness working within me I usually make a promise to myself with a lot of enthusiasm. But if I face even a little opposition or difficulty in fulfilling this promise, I tend to lose hope and usually give up trying altogether.

Solution:

In order to bring about a change in me and fulfill my promise, I need to use the virtue of determination. Every time I find myself becoming careless in it, I need to remind myself strongly of the importance of the promise that I had made. Then I will be able to win over all the obstacles that come my way in bringing my thoughts and words to actions.

Controlling Your Emotions

There are five essential steps to emotional control and mastery. Although the complete process will finally happen in a few seconds in real life, it is essential for our learning to break it down and see what is required at every step.

Step One – Awareness
This simply means being aware of the emergence of the subtlest (finest) of emotions, which, if left unchecked, will grow into important disturbances. For example irritation leads to frustration leads to anger leads to rage.

Step Two – Acknowledge
Which means taking responsibility for the emotion by understanding and acknowledging that I am the creator of the emotion, not someone or something else.

Step three – Acceptance
Fully accept the presence of the emotion without resisting (opposing) it in any way. If it is resisted it simply becomes stronger, or is suppressed for another day.

Step Four – Ascend
This is the moment of full detachment from both the emotion and the inner source of emotion. In the process of detached observation the emotion is losing its power. And it is only through detached observation that the emotion will begin to dissolve.

Step Five – Attune
This means returning our attention to the very centre of ourselves where our inner peace and power are to be found. This is the purpose of meditation.

Detachment gives the power to be uninfluenced by desires.

Expression:
When we are able to use the power of detachment that is
within us, we are able to go beyond the attraction of things even
whilst using them. We will be able to be in the consciousness that
we are the true masters who use all things as and when needed,
while being uninfluenced by them.

Experience:
When we find ourselves having a desire we should remind
ourselves that we are the ones who are the creators of things. So
we are the ones who influence and not the ones who are influenced
by the creation. This will easily make us detached from the things
that we are using.

Release, Let Go And Be Free

If you don't let go of the scene, the event, the sounds and the images

of other people, whom you mistakenly (incorrectly) believe 'did you

wrong’, if you keep replaying the scene and re-creating your negative

feelings, it means you are holding on to it all. Holding on also means

you are carrying one huge inner burden. Burdens make life heavy.

Holding on means you are just stuck in an inner 'action replay' mode,

and that only deepens your suffering, driving it deeper into your

heart. Isn't that foolish? Can you give it up and get on with your life?

Here's the truth of hurt. Well, almost the truth! Every time you think

about something hurtful, perhaps something that others said or did,

you are only repeating the moment it happened in your own mind.

Let's say you think about it 99 times. The other person only said or

did what they did once. But you have done it over and over again in

your head 99 times, so who is hurting whom here? You are hurting

yourself.